Some how I feel like she would know. Like she'll want to start at the same time or something stupid like that then I'd have to be like, "Well I uh... kind of started when you told me not to." That wouldn't go well.
listening shows respect, although she is not your boss. the man is in charge of the entire family. so you two not being in a relationship yet makes it neutral, so play Pokemon Y anyway. And the tournaments will go way beyond Oct 30, you take all the time you need even though it takes 48 hours at most to have 6 Pokemon at max level.