Yeah.... I arrived ready to tackle the topic and then read 5 pages that sounded like some other topics here... Anyway, I guess I'll answer anyway. It might help being back on topic.
Interracial marriage is still a marriage. It requires effort and different cultures can be a challenge, a bigger challenge that can come at you at unexpected times. They key here is to be open and honest. Forget about a right position, it is just different points of view and it is important to want to understand where the other person is coming from... but really this is just with any relationship. It requires effort.
As I said to Sanaki somewhere else, true, if I was asked before I fell in love if I'd choose to date someone from another culture over mine, I'd probably choose mine. It is okay, it is normal you want some common ground and are afraid the differences are just too much. But at least for me, love hasn't been choosing from a bunch it simply happened to be a great friendship that grew into something more, because we didn't really kept seeing each other as the Australian-Mexican, simply as two people in love and weren't planning this.
I married a person I met online in a Zelda forum, many people even online don''t understand how I could do this, but the truth is that we communicated by many means and got to know each other. We had our fights and adjustments and our locations and culture differences did presented themselves to us. They are unavoidable but it is not the culture differences what breaks a marriage it is the attitude of the people involved. My love and I have learned to work our differences and find in them things to strengthen our relationship. My family didn't take it easy our romance and tried to break us too late, they thought we weren't that serious given the distance until my crazy lover showed in Mexico. The hardest decision in my life has been abandoning my family, friends, culture and surroundings that defined me and saw me grow in favour of a life with the person I love.
I still in contact with my family, I do want to visit from time to time, and I'd lie if I said it is easy when you feel a minority where you live but I am not regretting it and i can say I am happy with my life. It has been worth it.
Maybe I shouldn't but I feel accomplished putting up the effort and commitment we did to make this relationship work, considering we lived in opposing ends of the world. We really know and love each other deeply. We have keep it honest, not taking each other for granted and working together to be better.
Interracial marriage is still a marriage. It requires effort and different cultures can be a challenge, a bigger challenge that can come at you at unexpected times. They key here is to be open and honest. Forget about a right position, it is just different points of view and it is important to want to understand where the other person is coming from... but really this is just with any relationship. It requires effort.
As I said to Sanaki somewhere else, true, if I was asked before I fell in love if I'd choose to date someone from another culture over mine, I'd probably choose mine. It is okay, it is normal you want some common ground and are afraid the differences are just too much. But at least for me, love hasn't been choosing from a bunch it simply happened to be a great friendship that grew into something more, because we didn't really kept seeing each other as the Australian-Mexican, simply as two people in love and weren't planning this.
I married a person I met online in a Zelda forum, many people even online don''t understand how I could do this, but the truth is that we communicated by many means and got to know each other. We had our fights and adjustments and our locations and culture differences did presented themselves to us. They are unavoidable but it is not the culture differences what breaks a marriage it is the attitude of the people involved. My love and I have learned to work our differences and find in them things to strengthen our relationship. My family didn't take it easy our romance and tried to break us too late, they thought we weren't that serious given the distance until my crazy lover showed in Mexico. The hardest decision in my life has been abandoning my family, friends, culture and surroundings that defined me and saw me grow in favour of a life with the person I love.
I still in contact with my family, I do want to visit from time to time, and I'd lie if I said it is easy when you feel a minority where you live but I am not regretting it and i can say I am happy with my life. It has been worth it.
Maybe I shouldn't but I feel accomplished putting up the effort and commitment we did to make this relationship work, considering we lived in opposing ends of the world. We really know and love each other deeply. We have keep it honest, not taking each other for granted and working together to be better.