It was quite the eye opener and I think it is on YouTube.. it is actually pretty educational as well.
But yes I agree with you regarding skin color.
Even though I said in my first post that I have a preference for Black or Multi-ethnic men, that isn't set in stone and it is only because we can relate to one another better, and would have more in common.
But I go by other traits that are far more important such as intelligence, sense of humor, and how they treat me, etc.
But if there is a guy out there that is White, Asian, Hispanic or even polka-dot or even striped, lol, who has these traits, then he has as much chance as a Black or Multi-ethnic man does. The most important factor I think would also have to be that they are open minded as well.
You cant just enter the relationship thinking that things will be a certain way and anticipate it happening or worse, create situations where it would or could happen, and that is one of the reasons why my ex and I are no longer together.
It was from him that I learned that it is possible to still be a little racist even if you are dating someone of a different race. He would intentionally start shit with me just to piss me off and would have the biggest grin on his face because he thought that he would see me "get ethnic." Even when it came to more personal aspects of our relationship, he would try to pressure me into doing things that I either didn't feel comfortable with doing or that I felt should be reserved for only my fiance or husband. When I stood firm on that, he resorted to cheating. He thought that I was promiscuous and would do things he'd seen in porn or the rap and hip hop videos he'd seen on BET.
He thought that I was weak as well and had the nerve to raise his fist during an argument. I stepped up in his face and told him thatbit he thought he was man enough to hit me, then to do it, because if he doesn't knock me out and have a way of changing his identity and leaving town in that time frame, I will find him and I will kill him.
I told him that he wouldn't have to worry about my people, that I would do it myself, gift wrap his remains and leave it on his doorstep. After that, I took off my glasses and told him to do it if he thought that he could get away with it and thought I was joking. He took a step back and apologized.
To him, I wasn't a person I was a character, whose purpose was to act out his fantasies whenever he wanted. He was the kind of guy who watched BET and thought that it was an accurate depiction of Black people, even though BET is owned by White people and has become the antithesis of the very demographic they are supposed to represent. They enforce the negative stereotypes about Black people and has done more to divide the Black community, rather than uniting it and destroying the stereotypes and uplifting the Black youth. Which, was the channel's original purpose, and one that it took very seriously. When it changed hands to the current owners, so did the programming and the objective.
This is why most Black people with a brain don't watch BET. He didn't care that I had self-respect or that I was intelligent.. he just wanted me to be the certain way that he was used to seeing in the media and when he saw that I wasn't like that, and didn't get his way, he resorted to being an asshole and started cheating, which I didn't find out about until after I started dating my husband.
He has since apologized for the way he treated me and the cheating, and the other horrible things he'd done and asked me for another chance and I forgave him but I didnt take him back and told him that I had moved on.
So yeah, this is why I say that it is important that you have an open mind and abandon whatever prejudices you may have when you are entering a relationship with someone, especially if they are of a different race.
And even though I know that not all White guys are like this, this as well as the crap we had gotten from everyone else, not just his family, but people in general, has affected me to the point, where I would have to really think about it for a bit to see if I'd want to go through that again. This is, of course, if I werent married.
I say this because even if the guy is a prince, this country is still fucked up when it comes to White/Black relationships. Even moreso if it is a White Man/Black Female relationship, since they would get heat from both Blacks and Whites. I say this because I see the shit my brother and his gf go through. She is surprised that her family and friends aren't as open minded as she is and he is going through the same things I did.
(jungle fever). Similar to what Angel said, while I prefer black women it's all based on personality. I want someone with common sense, like someone that won't degrade themselves to some future ''baby-daddy'' but instead defend herself and her dignity. It's enough that I had to see good and beautiful girls like a Shaquavia Moniqua Latifa or some Shaniqua go out with a Lil' Andre then months later she cries on a street corner, while Lil' Andre passes by carelessly with his arm around Uniqua's waist. Idiots. In short I would prefer a tough black girl that won't take shit from anybody, thats smart, and can still maintain some kindness. Though skin colour is optional.
I didn't know that he too liked Black women like Jefferson did.. I learned something new today.. 
